Wednesday, November 09, 2005

a study in perspectives on time, memory, and experience, part 1

On Monday I was talking with some of the undergraduates who go to my Bible study. One of them made some reference to how he was in high school and how he was different now. Now understand that this guy is a freshman, possibly a sophomore, in college. I sat there listening, slightly dumbfounded, by how he referred to high school as if it were the major point against which he defined himself. And as I listened, I began to feel very old. Now pause before you jump to leave some comment about how I'm not really old and please note that I'm not talking about being old but about feeling old. There is a difference.

I can't remember the last time I made reference to high school as the significant moment in my past. High school is more of a blurry memory at this point. Some days I feel like I've lived several entire lifetimes in the last 7 years. No joke. I get a slight of twinge of sadness when I hear people talk like this guy was talking. Not for myself, but for them. I guess I feel sad that they've had so little time to experience life and that they don't even know what they don't know. Perhaps I should feel happy for them for those very same reasons, but I don't. Knowledge will do that to you sometimes.

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

What is strange to me is that I used to think it had to do with where you were in life, or when you stopped your formal education...but it doesn't. I have met attorneys who obviously have grad degrees and STILL refer regularly to high school as defining. Then I thought it had to do with being in a rural area...and THAT is perhaps more likely the reason. --Ness

Anonymous said...

i was having a conversation with my mom about high school the other day and telling her about a day where, for some reason or another (crack?), I started googling names of people i could remember from high school. And i found myself not remembering so many of them, faint faces, but no names... and it's not been that long. Yes, imagine how we'll feel when we're forty.

Janis VV said...

...and then there are those of us who have been out of high school 35 years...